The Real Love

Love is patient, love is kind, these are words about love from the bible.
The kind of love that can move you to tears when its felt. The love from god the love from our angels.
Can human beings love like that?
Our human world is a feeling world.
Love is simple but in the human world its all complicated.
There are stages.
First its the phase of feelings and attraction.
Where everything about the person we love, is so perfect. Every habit every virtue every kiss every gesture. Everything is appreciated.
This is highest phase of all.
 Whatever love or affection is given is perceived as wow.
I call it the wow phase.
This wow phase is very short. Some people are capable of pulling it longer. The most love is percieved at this phase. Because everything is wow. It is percieved as real or true love. So the experience is heightened.
When the wow phase is ending, the second phase starts. The beginning of real love.
The phase when both people get emotionally close. This is also combined with the wow phase. But this phase is short and also nice. At the end of this phase the trouble starts.
The egos take over or the test of love is presented by the universe.
The fights or disagreements have begun by now.
Both argue fight and disagree. The passion is getting lost. Feelings go out the window and the pain begins.
Both people disagree or fight about stuff.
This creates a divide or the couple may be able to live with the differences.
This is the test of true love.
Love is not about the feelings. Its not about the first few months. Love is about when the fights start. Can both people accept each other as is??
Can both understand each other???
Can there be complete freedom of expression and who we are???
Can there be compatibility???
Can the love hold all of the crap. Can one still hold on to the love and accept.
To me, acceptance is pure love.
Can we allow the othr to be who they are in their most self expressed form.
Can we grant people to be who they are??
Can we love them for the ups and the downs and have the courage to say it??

Love is acceptance.it is accepting the good bad and ugly. When this fight phase starts the fights and resentment starts. The same wow person becomes the person who gives the most pain. This is the test of love. If a couple passes this phase they usually accept anything that comes by. Their bond gets strong. Usually people who r in a relationship based on feelings end here.
Its a test for endurance and strength.

 

Sheila Bajaj