Marriage

The union of two souls. When two become one. The vow to be with each other for lifetimes. The vows taken around the sacred fire, Marriage.
What has marriage turned into from what it is idealised to be?
Why was marriage created?

I dwell in these questions each day as I grapple with clients who come by the dozens with their deep dark secrets and share their scandalous stories.
From the series of flings to a friend with fringe benefits or the mysterious father to their child. Iv heard it all.
The love triangles and quadrangles don't surprise me anymore.

My job demands me to be objective.
But I sit in the face of this social issue which is contaminating society and ask. Why is this happening.
Marriage was created for some reason, but why is it being breached?
I also have a whole lot of expat clientele and firangs from out of the country who regularly consult with me on the phone, but the extramarital relationship culture isn't as much with them. Why?
We always felt the west was spoiling our morale and didn't have a very good value system or culture.
How come our ex Marital rel stories are more scandalous than theirs.
Something to ask ourselves.

Our culture survives on the Mask theory. Pretend, wear ur mask and judge others who falter.
Everyone is cheating and no one wants to admit it.
Its bad to get divorced or leave ur spouse when the marriage is dead- because of society, but its somehow ok to cheat.
Which is why people slip. They are too afraid to face the societies remarks and family pressure and hence choose to live dual lives. There is too much at stake to be yourself or walk out of a troubled relationship.

Whatever happened to the sanctity of marriage?
Where did we loose it all.
In the midst of rituals, a culture rich in values, we started pretending so much that we have now merged with the mask we wear and are frightened to live our truth.
When there is no room for truth, lies and deception is the only path to take.

Maybe the reasons we get into a marriage, must be relooked at. People marry at a certain age just because that's the right thing to do that that age, have kids coz that's what we all do.
Awareness of why we r doing it and what we want out of marriage. select a companion and friend for life with understandfing acceptance, truth, trust and compatibility is better than blindly looking at family back ground caste and religion.

Stay true to ur self and ur truth. Don't marry for the wrong reasons. And if u have, invest in the relationship to make it work. If its causing too much pain, build the courage to walk out. Don't worry about the kids who will miss out on one parent.
Atleast they get the best of both happy parents even though apart.

The most important message is to live your truth.