Question Answers

Dear Sheila,
Why do i keep attracting painful relationships? Every guy i date ends up hurting me. There may be a reason for this repeated pattern. When will I meet the right guy? How do I keep the painful relationships away. and Why me??

Anuradha( name changed)

Hi Anuradha,
Im in the process of writing your answer. Meanwhile Id suggest you read the post on toxic relationships and the school of life.
There may be a few answers there.
My reply will then make more sense to you.

Love and Light,
Sheila Bajaj

www.sheilabajaj.com


Hi Anu,

When we go through painful relationships, and get hurt we have bruises within us that need to heal..
I simply compare that to being at a level 3 and taking an elevator to a lower level.
now after this pain u get into one more painful experience and go few floors lower.
After going througha series of painful friendships and relationships you are probably at level -3 or -5.

When your at a low level of existence you will attract lower vibrations..
When you are not yet healed you are sending pain vibes and thats the reason your attracting more pain into your life.

The key to break this pattern is to let the old wounds heal..
You are carrying baggage and triggers from the past that arent allowing you to attract abundance joy and love.
Once you are healed, thats what you will radiate and thats what you will attract.

What really happens is slowly the healing takes you from -5 to level 12. And thats where the right man will be waiting for you.
because deep down you are a level 12..

Healing can be achived through several techniques..
Reiki, Pranayama, meditation, Pranic Healing, and Imvussa Meditation.
These are just some techniques from the many avaialble..

I wish you love and happiness.

Love and Light
Sheila Bajaj.

For others who would like to post their questions, this section is not for taror or psychic reading.
This is a wisdom column, where I meditate on the question and post the answer.

The School of Life

What is the School of Life??

Through the numerous enquiries of life and the intricacies of relationships or life's struggles, iv questioned the model that the universe uses.
There must be a guideline as to why we struggle, why we face difficulties and why we go through the pain threshold of the same thing happening over and over again.

So I question all of this, and the answers take me back to school.
I call it now the school of life.

It now seems like everything that we did in school has a repetition in the real world.
The school system has everything that real life has.
Concepts of learning lessons, difficult people, relationships, karma and even the times when we feel that all the turmoil hits at the same time.

I compare everyday behaviour and conduct in school to karma in the real world.
Our actions and thoughts add up to our karmic account..
That concept of good deeds and good conduct was a part of how we behaved. Good behavior in school was rewarded and bad behavior was punished.
We know from that, our deeds and actions count.

Our struggles, challenges and our turmoil periods are like tests and exams.
We were tested in school to check if we were ready for the next lesson, next term or next class.
If we flunked we had to redo not just the exams but the attendance, projects, class work and homework.
Similarly, if we haven't learnt our lessons from the bitter experience, IT REPEATS.
So if you have been through a grind, stop think and introspect. What have you learnt.
Once we do that. Its passed.
We are ready and strong enough to move to a higher level.
The next grade.
Similarly life's lessons only get more profound.
They chisel us. It brings out the best in us.
Exams were never meant to scare us away, and yes struggles were never meant for us to fear it and stagnate.
Exams and struggles both happened so that we face it and grow.
Learn our lessons well, pass and maybe even excel at it.
So if an experience keeps repeating. Life is telling you, you haven't learnt your lesson.

Our board exams are the big crisis. Like divorces, loosing a job, a relationship breaking. Its a big exam to take you to the next level of consciousness.
So face it with courage.
The real world will take you through your levels at your own pace.
So the people at low levels of consciousness remain there. They are in level 1
Or like LKG. The difficulty level remains nil forever. Yes, its the good people who struggle.
Its good news. Your higher. Your growing.
Thank your turmoil.

Lastly our trouble areas in school is that one difficult subject.
Like math or chemistry.

Isn't that where the real grind is?
The weak areas are hit.
The tutions, the revisions, the repeated effort or focus is to strengthen the weak areas.
When there is force applied and a struggle through that one area. Remember, the school of life is strengthening your weak area.
Like a weak muscle.
Most workouts for the weak area.
To build on it.
Pump more weights.

To sum it up. Our life is a replica of what we went through in school.
We think its just important to get through the exam, or the struggle that we go through- NO.
Its a bit of everything. If we just pass exams and haven't had good behaviour or conduct or karma. We can even get thrown out of school.
Or, if our behavior has been great, and we miss a main exam. Our conduct is reviewed and reevaluated. A second chance is given.
So our karma is as important as our deeds and us merely living life or passing the tests.
How we live life matters.
All our lessons and stages are taken from school to prepare us for the real world.

I thank my school and my teachers who took me through that learning and that process. It gives me the wisdom to live life as ease today.

Love and Light
Sheila Bajaj

QUESTION and ANSWERS

Iv decided to add this as a new part of my Blog. Post your questions. Get wisdom. This is not a prediction section.

Dear Sheila Maam,
Iv been through a Bad marriage. I feel very scared blocked and averse to commitment or relationships. Marriage is out of the question.
Please throw some light on this.
Rana

Hi Rana,
When a person goes through a bad marriage his softest side gets bruised and beaten. when that happens, we've really allowed hurt pain and heavy emotions into our heart. Its a bruise which hasn't healed.
We stop to act and start to react. We don't come from pure love. We come from fear.
We are blocked to true love. The moment someone showers love , the reaction will be to run far away. Love can be scary.
This is because there is a fear of getting hurt again. Of loosing that love again.
That's why we run away from what we want most.
The soul needs to heal from old wounds.
When you are just out of a relationship, you tend to live in rebellion and in your complete comfort zone.
Allow yourself to heal.
After that, dig deep and look within.
Are you really scared of commitment or marriage??
Or is that What you WANT MOST??
The person you will fear is the person you know can love you. But the bruised soul loves to chase.
To inflict more pain on oneself.

So if you see this pattern , STOP.
Heal and introspect.
Then allow your heart to come from love. Not fear. To act from love, not react from the painful past.

I hope this helps.
Love and Light,
Sheila Bajaj