TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS- Soul mates and Twin souls

Toxic relationships
What are toxic relationships??

There are some relationships that give us more pain than happiness. These relationships are not built on the foundation of love, acceptance and the other virtues. These toxic relationships are draining and addictive.
They are so difficult to let go. The dependency factor in these relationships are very high.
The relationship or the person acts as a parasite.
The hunger and the void never gets filled.
These relationships lack laughter, they lack joy and fulfillment.
They don't enrich the soul, they deplete it.
A relationship should never be a struggle.
A toxic relationship is struggle from day 1.
It ends with chords that are too painful to cut.
These bonds cause turmoil and don't even get the support of the gods and angels. Parental support in these relationships is minimal and closest friends will be the loudest signs and voices screaming at you to stay away from the other.

Toxic relationships are easy to recognize, they make us feeling helpless, reciprocation imbalance always exists.
Men and women get into these relationships with a person who has very less regard or love for them.
It is a mere attraction that brought both close.
The best thing to do if you realize that you are in one of these relationships is to stop right there and think.
Break cut or burn the chord.
Be in power and don't wait for your toxic partner to dump you because that is most likely to happen around the corner.
When you take a call yourself, the pain is a lot less.

A blessed relationship doesn't need as much effort.
Love is about loving without playing the games.
Love is about knowing you will be safe and protected.
As ordinary as it is a twin soul relationship will see you through your lows and highs.
Accept every ridiculous bone in you and understand you through all the changes you go through.
The bond between twin souls is so sacred and healing.
It allows us and grants us the gift of freedom. The freedom to be and to exist. Our twin soul allows us to grow, nourishes our roots and makes us grow.
Feeds our confidence and is that breath of fresh air.
He or she can make you laugh on the gloomiest days.
You can spend hours talking to them or sit in silence for hours and not say a thing.
Feel each others heartbeat while listening to an intense song.

Or just be random and talk random.
Twin souls are supportive, loving, affectionate and honest. They are living angels and continue being the best emotional anchors forever.
They make the best partners and a marriage with your twin soul can be your dream come alive.
I know 5 couples who married their twin soul.

Love????evil or divine

Love is patient love is kind.
Iv heard about love from so many sources so many experiences and so many scriptures.
Is love really that beautiful.
So much hurt in the name of love.
So many hearts broken in the name of love.
Love is that one driving force which makes people go against each other. Makes kids hate their parents.
Makes man and women have the worst battle fought outside a battlefield.
So how can this love be divine if it has the power to hurt people?
How can it be sacred if it can bring out the worst in us?

I look at this beautiful emotion and search deeper.
 Why is love so dual?. On one hand it can make a dead man alive and give him reason to live and on the other hand it can destroy the person or make them crazy or destructive.
Its like power. Like petrol. Like fuel.
It could be productive or destructive.
So how does love happen? How do we explain our connection to some instantly and our disconnection with some we've lived with our whole life.
Love is a force, an energy. Its a vibration that each one of us have and emit. We vibrate with this love energy and when we find this energy being one with another vibration we connect. This connection can be so fulfilling. The feeling of oneness is so blissful. Even if ur miles apart you can feel the strong wave of its subtleness hit your solar plexus and make your very existence alive and your solar plexus churn.
 As beings of love when we connect with the other side of our energy or our other half we vibrate with harmony. We r in perfect balance- ying and yang. This love is divine. Very rarely do we come across the same frequency. When the frequency is right everything else will be upside down. Why?
The journey of the soul is to find our frequencies work through this path through the ups and downs and see if the love remains. To see if the love is strong enough to go through all the trials of life.
The ultimate purpose of the soul is to unite with its other half. And the journey of life can be made beautiful in that quest or painful in the loss.
Because love is a vibration from the inner dimensions of our consciousness it can oftenly give us pain. We may hold on to it inspite of the pain. The connection of love is from the root. like the roots of the tree. And then it permeates on the physical mental and emotional.
Dig deeper. Connect and never let a soul connection pass you by.


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The Real Love

Love is patient, love is kind, these are words about love from the bible.
The kind of love that can move you to tears when its felt. The love from god the love from our angels.
Can human beings love like that?
Our human world is a feeling world.
Love is simple but in the human world its all complicated.
There are stages.
First its the phase of feelings and attraction.
Where everything about the person we love, is so perfect. Every habit every virtue every kiss every gesture. Everything is appreciated.
This is highest phase of all.
 Whatever love or affection is given is perceived as wow.
I call it the wow phase.
This wow phase is very short. Some people are capable of pulling it longer. The most love is percieved at this phase. Because everything is wow. It is percieved as real or true love. So the experience is heightened.
When the wow phase is ending, the second phase starts. The beginning of real love.
The phase when both people get emotionally close. This is also combined with the wow phase. But this phase is short and also nice. At the end of this phase the trouble starts.
The egos take over or the test of love is presented by the universe.
The fights or disagreements have begun by now.
Both argue fight and disagree. The passion is getting lost. Feelings go out the window and the pain begins.
Both people disagree or fight about stuff.
This creates a divide or the couple may be able to live with the differences.
This is the test of true love.
Love is not about the feelings. Its not about the first few months. Love is about when the fights start. Can both people accept each other as is??
Can both understand each other???
Can there be complete freedom of expression and who we are???
Can there be compatibility???
Can the love hold all of the crap. Can one still hold on to the love and accept.
To me, acceptance is pure love.
Can we allow the othr to be who they are in their most self expressed form.
Can we grant people to be who they are??
Can we love them for the ups and the downs and have the courage to say it??

Love is acceptance.it is accepting the good bad and ugly. When this fight phase starts the fights and resentment starts. The same wow person becomes the person who gives the most pain. This is the test of love. If a couple passes this phase they usually accept anything that comes by. Their bond gets strong. Usually people who r in a relationship based on feelings end here.
Its a test for endurance and strength.

 

Sheila Bajaj

 

 

Numbness

Sometimes life is so chaotic and yet so silent. This is not a good silence I'm talking about. I'm taking about numbness.
Sometimes we go thrrough so much pain we turn numb.
Pain can be so continous, u feel it again and again and again more and more and it doesn't stop. And at one point we reach the end of pain. We are empty. And numb.
Numb should be good. Since its the end of the pain path. but numbness can't be good, its the beginning of a no feeling state of being.
All our life we feel and feel and feel. And then we hurt and hurt. And at the end of the hurt path we reach numbness. We seize to feel. We start living on auto pilot. My favorite word. Its so easy to snap into autopilot. The mind and heart and body doesn't wanna feel pain. So it goes numb and dead. And we just function and live life everyday.like machines. We exist. But we have no life. What a pathetic place to be in.
Does being numb prevent us from getting hurt. Is that numbness good? The phase where we seize to feel. Feel anything. Feel love feel joy feel alive.
Numbness can't be good. We all turn numb, but being numb or hard doesn't make us happy. We stop living in the experience if live. We forget what happiness and feeling is. We stop experiencing love. We don't connect to god we don't connect to ourselves and we dry up. It feels like the soul is dead.
What makes the soul so alive. What makes us happy and drives us crazy.
Its love.
Love has the potwer to transform something dead and give it life. Give it feeling once again. Make it breathe. Give it a purpose. Give it hope. Give it a meaning.
How many of us gave up. And dried up. And then came love, pure love. And it changed our soul and our reality.
Transformed the consciousness of that being. Connected us back to the source. To the consciousness. Could this love be an awakened state of existence.
I look at this love as being divine. Its only divine energy that can transform something dead into life.
Love has that power.
Then what makes that same love convert the joy into pain. Does love have the power to create pain too??
Yes it does. Love is always attached to an expectation. A fear. When love is attached to fear it creates an expectation.
This creates pain.
Pain is born from fear.
Fear is consuming and frightening. The fear of loosing love. And that creates another swirl of pain and then we walk the path of agony and wounds. The pain that stems from pure love and then fear is the worst of the kind. Its worse than the pain of not having at all.
but fear needs to be removed. There is no right answer of how fear of loosing can be removed. Fear is like poison. It consumes us and kills the happiness love gives us. Fear is like a deadly virus. Once fear is transformed into faith. We can feel love again. And even if there is pain or shades of hurt, it feeds the soul. It makes us wanna live the journey, not fear the outcome.

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LIVING IN THE NOW

It is either the past of the future. Never now. We live in our past carrying it. So heavy, worry, fear, anticipate the future never just be the present. That the hardest. We either regret the past or miss it. Why? Because we never lived it fully. Every present is never lived fully. That’s why we don’t enjoy moments.


In every present we sulk. Just sulk. The absence of something or loosing what you have. We want to possess it. Possess the present. But we cant. And that’s the fun. Don’t possess it. I am glad we cant. We would die if we tried to possess the present. It would lead to so much monotony.


We are never able to live in the moment also because we are always searching searching. Searching blindly don’t know for what, why, no just searching directionless aimless.


There is nothing out there that we can find search inside. You will find the universe. But we cant accept that. We search everywhere BUT inside. The search takes us further and further away from the answer. Because the answer is within. Its like a mad person being really hungry, he just wants food. Doesn’t know what and why. Just food. No matter how much he eats he’s not going to be full. Because his physical thirst and hunger can be satisfied not the emotional, spiritual and mental hunger. We all have depths, but try to feed only the superficial. Like the physical. Not the root. Feed the root. The root of hunger and the hunger will not drive you crazy. Feed your purpose of being in existence. Don’t just run. Run with a quest and a plan. Run with a meaning and an intention.

BREAK THE MONOTONY OF YOUR LIFE... BREAKING PATTERNS

Every energy in this Universe is linked with us. We are linked with spaces and form and every other aspect of existence. If there is a shift in any energy pattern in the universe or cosmos, It automatically influences our life. It’s a beautiful invisible network.
This invisible network can be understood and worked on to change unwanted patterns in our life.
Lets look at a negative thought. It starts somewhere. With an action, a thought or a feeling from somewhere. Can we root the feeling of a negative thought from anywhere else. Someone emitting that vibration? Someone at work. Where did that vibration come from a feeling of dis ease. Where did that root from ? The mind. So You received the negative thought and feel miserable about a negative thought, You may have received it even as a comment or remark. You get upset, angry sometimes. Fight or argue to release the feeling. It creates a feeling of dis ease in another. Creates a negative frequency in the air. Then you feel calmer. But the new pattern of this negative has triggered of a series of frequencies being emitted in our surrounding. It sometimes ends up as a block. In relationships, in your body in your work and looking at the worst. Affect it in the long run. Well the good part is. This feeling can be reversed, with positive affirmations and love. Feeling of well being. Being happy. It can be made contagious too.
We can use this rippling effect of energy to unblock things like stagnancy at work, sour relationships or even fights.

Thought Magnets

Have we ever thought why our deepest fears come true.
Have we ever thought why our most passionate desires also come true.
Some dreams come true just cause we wanted it and thought about it.
This manifestation happens because of the principle of thought magnets.
Every time we are happy we only feel happier and get really good news after that. Once you feel lousy continuous lousy things happen around us.

Every thought we feel and experience is sent out into the universe through our breath. Our breath is the connection between the consciousness and us. It connects the inner self to the higher consciousness. Its like a connector.
We keep worrying, we send out worry magnets into the universe and all we get back is more worry and more pain.
The happier we feel the most positivity we attract.
This thought magnet attracts itself to another magnet of similar nature.

If you want to feel great things happen, send out positive vibes. The least you can do is take your attention away from yourself and focus on someone else.
When you create something for another, it untangles a huge knot in your own life.

try it out.
Give love if you seek love,
Give abundance and stability if you seek it for yourself.
Its using the law of karma to create miracles in the universe.